Do you remember, growing up, the long stretches of summer; the long break between school ending and beginning again? A lifetime happened in those two months. If you imagined doing anything, it would magically happen somehow.
Fast-forward to life as an adult with children. Summer is somehow over before it even begins; mapped out and executed with precision, no room for deviation. Nothing happens magically. You blink and realize time has passed you by.
As life moves faster, it becomes harder to find time to change habits, find a new job, or be the person you imagined yourself to be.
Do you know what I find myself telling myself when I don’t do what I know I need to do? I tell myself “I don’t have time.” And then I came across this:
“Instead of saying “I don’t have time” try saying “it’s not a priority,” and see how that feels. Often, that’s a perfectly adequate explanation. I have time to iron my sheets, I just don’t want to. But other things are harder. Try it: “I’m not going to edit your résumé, sweetie, because it’s not a priority.” “I don’t go to the doctor because my health is not a priority.” If these phrases don’t sit well, that’s the point. Changing our language reminds us that time is a choice. If we don’t like how we’re spending an hour, we can choose differently.”
This stopped me in my tracks.
No one ‘has’ time. Time passes at the same speed it always has. As we get older we fill our time with the busy-ness and everyday-ness of life. We make choices as to how we spend our time, how we organize our days. What we determine our priorities are, without really giving it thought.
What do you not have time for?
- Are you looking for a new job? It may be a priority to check in with one of these organizations to ask one question this week.
- Are you wanting to be a better communicator in English? You may want to look to the EAL resources in your area.
- Do you want to know more about adjusting to life in Canada? You may want to see the plentitude of options available for you (and there are A LOT of options!).
Whatever the question is, whatever it is that you tell yourself you don’t have time for, try changing “I don’t have time” to “it’s not a priority” and see how it feels. I’ll tell you this: I made it to the gym each and every time I tried this phrase and felt like I didn’t have time. I decided it was a priority; I was happier for it, as were those around me.
Do you have a similar way to make sure you keep yourself in check? Share your ideas in the comments below.